its late at night and i’m doing work
i have discovered that such conditions, while not very practical, are sublimely optimal in the production of blog posts.
so today we will talk about WHAT IS A MAN? this is because i have read a friend’s blog, which says that in essence, she wants to marry a man who hears and understands God’s call. another friend of mine once said that the hottest kind of guy is the kind who is on fire for God (which is a very simple play on words but one which has stuck with me for about… half a year? probably more).
so what does it mean to be a man? considering my raging hormones and my beginning-to-tick biological clock:
being a man is being half of a complete unit. man and woman have been created to complete each other
which leads to the very common question of ‘so what kind of girl would you like to date’
so for the interests of curiosity i shall fill some of this up.
a girl i’d like to date would be (ideally) good at cooking, great at baking (yes i know stop telling me, i’m traditional. women are inherently domestic too i think. don’t call me chauvinistic… look inside yourself and you know this to be true girls!), love kids, want to have a family, play ball, be okay with staying at home to be a housewife (true story bro. i refer you back to my domestication argument. now i sound like a 16th century dude), be reasonably pretty, have long hair, blah blah other cosmetic features blah blah
and of course most importantly must love God first.
but then this begs the question that
what is a man?
a man must complete his other half. which means to say for better or for worse in sickness or in health you gotta be there man. and before you date a girl you must know whether you can do this for her. so this is the question again
what is a man?
before one goes forth to search the world for the chosen one and special soulmate one must consider that oneself must be properly equipped to do the same. in other words…
what is a man (that your dream girl would want to date)?
so you know what, i have many peers who have entered into healthy relationships which project to great things ahead, i.e. marriage. now i’m one of those people who believe that dating should be for the purpose of marriage. i must admit that this stand may sound upright and noble and all but in all seriousness it is extremely difficult. what this entails is that one must not engage oneself in any emotional playtime, i.e. flings and suchlike. while the temptation to go forth and to just have a good time (believe me i have felt that temptation many a time) is truly great, it is the thought of your future wife that must keep you going.
after all, what makes a man is his dedication and his love to his wife
a concept with which i still struggle with, and i look to happily married couples in order to understand this. it is only too often that one disses ones parents for being uncool, with the rebellious stage and all that, but i have with dawning realization began to understand that my parents are eventually my final role model (at the earthly level) for what marital bliss is. this is of course accompanied by a parallel realization that hey good parenting is super important because my own kids are going to be looking at me in the same way that i am looking at my parents.
aside: i realise that a lack of punctuation seriously detracts a reader from easy comprehension of the text. but i can’t really be bothered and truth be told, it is deliciously fun to intentionally do this, especially with the knowledge that i am arming you with the knowledge to comprehend this humour, if you don’t already
anyway the point of this exercise is to examine oneself. before looking out, one must look inward. ironically the behaviour that is perceived to be selfish is the most selfless of all. people say that they will change for love, blah blah. sure i believe that – i really do. but temporary superficial change is nothing, and only brings hurt in the end. that’s an easy thing to type but not an easy thing to experience. i think it is worth it to be extremely exacting in some specific criteria when looking for a girlfriend, so that the long term implications of entering into a relationship project positively and extrapolate upwards. do we not preach in the corporate world and in every other aspect of society and secular work that one must have the end in mind?
i propose that we do the same (propose, haha) in our relationships, particularly those that will last forever
so now, after answering what is a man, the question becomes…
AM I A MAN?
still figuring it out